Marriage Stress

So tell me who is the most important person at Indian weddings ? Did you say bride- No , Groom- No, Arey simple to hai- Its our guests.

I felt so relieved when new guidelines regarding number of guest at weddings were issued due to the current pandemic situation not because I am antisocial or I don't like people but because so much burden to appease the society with lavish expenses was not their. Honestly, I never understood this craze of spending so much just for a day and this social media has made it even worse. The expenses are not just limited to the bride's and groom's family, but even the guest spend blindly just because they can't repeat clothes and those wedding gifts I tell you.

Firstly, its the bride's and groom's day, but still do you really think that people remember what YOU wore on some other function. Even if they do what's the problem in flaunting your favorite dress again. I mean no one's going to charge you, its your own dress, you paid for it and you proudly wear it as many times you want. For the bride and groom also there is no point of spending so many thousands and lakhs on your look because honestly everyone is busy in showing off their own expenses. I wish we had disposable clothes though, those just wear once and throw kind of stuff. 

We were still not over with "The Outfit" stress and there comes a new trend where in you need a separate costume and jewelry for each function, be it haldi, mehndi, or Sangeet. And trust me on this, girls never wait for marriage to be a wife, all they care about is just being a bride- getting all dolled up and pose in front of the camera. See I am not against anything mentioned above but only if you are doing it because you want it to be like that, but if its just to impress those guests or some of your social media followers then you must give it a thought. As quoted by someone "you have a house to feed and not a community to impress"

Maybe this seems to be less important issue to you but its not, I have seen people going through anxiety and depression just to prove that their wedding was better. These pre wedding videos sometimes come across as if some competition is there, those who are not so comfortable in front of camera are also just following the trend. Again guys I am not against these things, please go ahead if you feel like and you want to but just don't get pressurized because your so and so relative has done it and now its your turn to prove a point. You might give your every bit to it but people tend to forget when something new comes up, its just a matter of time.

We can still make marriages memorable by hosting a function with only people who are close and actually matter to us, with simple food and clothes. Also we need to stop judging people about there financial and social status from their spending on wedding. We can always bring a change if we want to, we can lower the burden of families who take up loans from banks just to make two hearts meet. We need to understand that the most important people in the marriage are the bride and groom. And the bride and groom needs to understand that their outfits are matter of just a few days, but their companionship is a matter of lifetime. Work on deepening your bonding with each other, be the best couple for yourselves and not for others.

Okay so I am already planning two weddings- one that's inspired from pinterest and one that I can actually afford. 😉

And those asking me ki meri shadi kab hogi? Muje apni shadi ki chinta ni hai uski hai jiski mujse hogi. 😜